Happy Friday, lovelies!
This week I bring you a purple/lilac look that is great for warmer weather. I remember my Sophomore year of college, I was SO obsessed with the color purple, not in a fashionable way, NO. I had a purple coat, purple heels, a purple top and a purple bag - wore it ALL together and thought I was the coolest person alive. Like, hello Vogue, hire me now!
But things change and for good reasons. I think it's so interesting to look back at yourself and notice how you've changed throughout the years. I also wanted to wear something purple for Autism Awareness Month. As a Psychology major, I was taught about ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) and I would like to share just a few things with you all, too.
I am ashamed to say that I was never taught about autism or Asperger's growing up. I remember my first experience when I was in 1st or 2nd grade with an autistic girl. I asked my teacher about her and why she behaved so differently from the rest of us and the answer I got set a foundation for most of my formative years. She said that the girl was cursed (as these things are common to say in muslim cultures, where everything negative is a curse). I am so glad I was educated about it during my college years and was able to learn the differences and also the importance of raising awareness.
So, just a little bit of educational information to celebrate Autism Awareness Month.
1. Their senses are out of sync. What does that mean? That means that every smell, sound, taste and touch that a normal person may not even notice could be painful for someone with ASD. When you see someone who seems withdrawn or mean, it's only because they are trying to protect themselves from the environment. So, for example, a simple task like going to a grocery store can be so difficult with all the loud noises, people and such.
2. They interpret language literally. So when you say that "something is a piece of cake" and there is no cake in sight, it would be upsetting for someone with ASD. Now, I will admit, as an immigrant I , too, often take things literally and it's hard to interpret cultural cliches sometimes. My best advice is to just use simple phrases, "Aida, go eat" or "Aida, put your toys away". Keep it short and sweet and CLEAR.
3. They are great at visualizing! So instead of saying something that may be forgotten or misunderstood, why not show it! It will be remembered much better and stored in the brain longer.
4. Help them with social interaction! This one was challenging for me as a former nanny/babysitter. I really thought it's best to just let kids be. But I learned that with a little bit of help, they WILL be the life of the party. Sometimes it's just hard for them to start the initial conversation. Teach about feelings while they are playing. If you see a kid fall down, you can teach them to say "are you ok?" and explain why we don't laugh when someone falls.
5. Learn the signs of meltdowns! Everything that people with ASD do in terms of meltdowns are to show communication. They are scared of their own meltdowns. It's simply means that one of their senses got pushed to the limits. If you can figure out what triggered a meltdown, they can be prevented in the future.
There are a lot more things that you can and should learn. I would highly recommend a book written by the amazing Temple Grandin called "The Autistic Brain".
This blouse feels so lightweight and is perfect for the warmer climate, especially here in Florida. I always prefer tucking tops that are more airy and less structured, so that way your figure doesn't drown in it.
I am currently obsessing over these jeans that I got from ASOS. It's a bit tricky to shop online with the UK sizing, but I got lucky. Just make sure that you look closely at the measurements because everywhere else in the world people use metrics!
I think white jeans are such a necessity, especially in the summer. You can style a pair of white jeans a 101 ways! I especially like the ripped jeans because they are more casual and can be styled up and down. We all strive to be more comfortable in the summer and it's not surprising since summer is associated with vacations and school breaks.
I hope you all are enjoying life in all its forms - the ups and downs, good and bad. I want you to remember just how fragile time is and that it doesn't wait for anyone. Do all the things without always questioning yourself. Stop worrying about the future to the point of anxiety. Take life one day at a time and give yourself credit for things. Be mindful of your surroundings and always find opportunities to learn! I really hope you learned a few things about ASD and I want to encourage you again to learn more here.
LOVE & STUFF,